PART 1
Becoming attached to someone makes you happy but when you lose that person you are unhappy. Notice how the latter state is worse than the former unattached state. Something negative occurs in the process of becoming attached that is not evident at the time; it shows up later on in the relationship, or when we "fall" out of love.We can never love the person we become attached to, although we may think that we do. Attachment is really a self-serving ego experience, destructive and self-defeating in the long run.Women attach themselves to the weakness of men and tend to feel what the men feel. They experience his strength and eventually gain ascendancy over him. Men like that attachment because they think they are being served, accepted and loved.Acceptance is very important to the ego when it is guilty. Having someone attached to you is very exciting and comforting. Unfortunately, such a relationship reinforces everything which is wrong in you and this leads to more guilt, which in turn develops a greater need for those enchanting attachment personalities. This is the basis of addiction—to anything from women to drugs. If you can see this point, you are probably asking why such a natural thing be so harmful.The answer lies in knowing the truth about your origin.The ultimate love goal should be to set your beloved free—not from marriage, but from your own selfish needs and use of them. Would you believe that the need for approval and acceptance is exactly equivalent to original sin? Hear me out, please!The ego that became wrong cannot admit that it is, hence the need for approval. Wrong people cannot stand alone; they must have support. It is that support that reinforces the error and makes them dependent on approval.
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