You Only Hurt the One You Lust
When someone says, "I
need you", does that mean "I love you?" If sex or need is love
then is it true that the more need you have, the more love there is? Surely that
implies a growing dependency (a loss of freedom) and if love is supposed to
come from people yet it is something we all need and lack then how can anyone
provide it to another?
The answer obviously, is
that no one can. What you see passing for love is nothing more than need and a
need to be needed, with one party pretending to fulfill the need of the other
in order to satisfy his own need. It's a con game.
Our lives are confounded
and our minds manipulated by imparting the wrong meanings to words. No doubt
you've heard the expression, "I love too much, that's what the matter with
me is” but look carefully at that statement. Surely in true love there is the
perfect balance in everything. If this is so, how can love possibly do anything
in excess? Where is the contradiction?
What people really mean is
that they use and need too much and, for the sake of what they need, allow
themselves to be used and abused. Maybe you "give your all" under
pressure and call your weakness "love”. A growing ego-need to be stroked
tends to make you supportive and spoils people to take advantage of you.
Weakness brings out cruelty in others, to which you must surrender your
substance to keep the "peace”. Unfortunately that kind of giving or loving
cannot work, as it is nothing more than a vampire/zombie relationship. The
trouble is that we usually associate need with something good. We think the
same of those who give in to or gratify our needs. What we are really looking
at here is a dark love, a strange compulsion for something in us to fulfill or
to be fulfilled by kindred types.
The relationship between a
creator and his creatures happens to be one of need. When corruption enters
to displace our true Creator, the corrupter becomes the (re)creator of our
identity. Now the (re)creator must be supportive of his creation which is to
say he must answer the need of his creation; otherwise they would cease to
exist, neither could he love through them.
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