Emotional
troubles originate in the formative years. Some form of family cruelty or
disappointment determined your entire future.
Certain
reactions to look-alike people, places and things act as an unbroken chain
that reinforce the past because in turn compound the present. Become aware of
any person, place or thing that arouses any irritation, frustration or
pressure by its mere presence. It is critical to healing that you notice any
person or pressure that intimidates you to the point of obligation, people you
cannot refuse. Watch those feelings in your solar plexus and make no decisions
until they pass.
Resentment
establishes problems and continued resentments reinforce them. Your particular
formative experience has charged all familiar environments with a strange
kind of energy, affecting no one but you. The mere presence of a man wearing a
belt buckle similar to one your father beat you with confers to him the image
of your brutal father. For a young man approaching puberty, the evidence of
mother's overbearing presence might well be the stimulating presence of her or
any female's underwear.
In
the same way that the governing majesty is passed down from a dying monarch to
his heir, so passes the subtle domineering spirit from mother to daughter. As
much as it is convenient to believe that wimpy and violent fathers are the
primary destructive family influence, it is not quite so.
This
should not be interpreted as being critical of women. A spiritual inheritance,
of sorts, compels most women to enable needy men. The passive and violent
man's problem lies in his failing to understand a woman's need, forcing her
into a destructive role.
The
affection for any fault (food, sex, alcohol) intensifies the conflicts that cry
out for more faults? The folly of most men is that they crave what kills them.
The woman's problem lies in her response to needy men. Women respect and
experience love only from men they cannot control and those who do not have
that unhealthy, destructive need.
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